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Daniel Lavery's avatar

I’ve thought the new interest in ovulation cycles has been a reaction to heightened awareness of trans people! A sort of “we have HRT at home” counter-programming

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sam bodrojan's avatar

Ugh missed ur thoughts

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Daniel Lavery's avatar

not that everyone into it is deliberately transphobic, but that’s how it got into the cultural soup

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emilio's avatar

this was so fun to read while

being really insightful. i havent been able to get through an essay on here in WEEKS bc they all sound the same. your voice is amazing & i laughed out loud multiple times

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sam bodrojan's avatar

I’m so so glad!!

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Arlo's avatar

This rules. I fucking love when trans people talk about popstars. Reading this made me think about how coming out as trans almost made me feel like a little popstar sometimes. I kind of felt famous, everything in my world was about me for a while; it's sweet and funny and second-hand embarrassing to see someone else experience that for themself. Something about watching Lorde, a person who is already famous, experience that is even more delicious.

That being said, the first two singles were honestly kind of a snoozefest. I never really got into Lorde. Green Light is a banger though.

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D.J. Liberty's avatar

as a fellow person with like no opinion on Lorde, I really loved reading this essay:)

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sam bodrojan's avatar

Yayyyy

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Exa Moseley's avatar

this was a really sweet essay

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sam bodrojan's avatar

Omfg thank u!! Glad u liked

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Clare's avatar

i love you but lorde is not one of the most famous people on the planet. but she thinks she is which is contributory to the comfortability with which she is espousing baby's first ideas about x y and z. otherwise yes

though the music is so so so so bad. like imagine if it were good how sweet it would be

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sam bodrojan's avatar

I trust u on the famous point because y r how I learn who is famous

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faye anthea's avatar

love love love this one

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sam bodrojan's avatar

Ty!!

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Alice's avatar

Thanks, Sam. Your writing is fun to read.

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sam bodrojan's avatar

I’m so glad!

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Em Seely-Katz's avatar

Genius stuff. You make me proud to be trans in the corniest way possible

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sam bodrojan's avatar

This makes my heart swell!

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Liv Elniski's avatar

Loved this so much

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bel's avatar

very endearing thursday morning coffee read this week, i rly liked this one :)

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Deli's avatar

Idc about lorde either and I also don’t give a fuck about any celebrity ‘s gender identity, but GOD there is something awful about her discovery. And something awful about celebrity pretending they invented the wheel instead of looking at real life trans people. Anyways, thank you for saying it :)

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Deli's avatar

Not awful her discovery but the way it’s presented: the ignorance is almost beautiful

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Chris's avatar

So well put, and makes me reflect on my own experience with gender, and TALKING about my gender. I kinda realized early on, I felt really embarrassed talking about it, because my ideas, my feelings, on my identity were just as half-baked as my identity itself at that point. I felt like I wanted to wait for it to “solidify” or finalize before sharing, to avoid getting anything wrong or jumping the gun. Unsure if that’s the right approach still, but I settled into a more comfortable mode of just BEING, and letting others deal with it as they may. Again, thanks for the excellent morning read :)

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Robert Fiore's avatar

Quite a few popstars have been polymorphous and unbound by gender, but I think by definition a transgendered person has committed to one.

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Axel's avatar

This was excellently written! As a trans man myself I really liked your take on lorde’s take on transgenderism as if it is a fad or trend. Very interesting.

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Arianna Aguilar's avatar

I'm jealous, I've tried to get off the ethynil estradiol birth control while on spironolactone to replace with something safer but the doctors say you have to be on bc while on spironolactone cause it causes birth defects

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